Our breath. It is an interesting thing, isn't it? We do it so naturally from birth that we barely even have to think about it. Yet our breath intrinsically links us to the fact that we are alive. When you're stressed out, worried, going through something painful or troublesome, stop for a moment to focus on your breath--realize that whatever happens, you'll breathe right through it.
[Vintage YSL crushed velvet sweater, Paul Smith shirt, Thrifted Paco Rabane pleated skirt, Haat dress, Thrifted knit skirt, Issey Miyake APOC leggings, Alexander Wang shoes, Ned Sewell Goggles]
This is a trick I've used to deal with the stares and comments I get when I walk down the street or go about my daily life. Most of the time I don't even notice, but there are times when you can become [like] breath, and rather than fight it, breathe through it till you're back in the safezone. After awhile you realize that you carry this safe-zone deep within. Our breath is the key to getting in.
Carrying on with our skirt discussion; I have realized why it's been such a long drawn out process for me to get to the damn point. I appreciate Sean's thoughts on the topic and I think Syed will have a much better series of posts then I could ever have, on the social implications of a man in a skirt. Attempting to simplify this, it's something like this whole breathing thing, it simply isn't a big deal for me. I know this seems like an easy way out, but at this point in my experience (maybe because I've been wearing skirts for a year now) the feelings are no longer raw or even there... Maybe? Yeah, why not?
There is so much out there already on the history of men in skirts why would I just repeat here. I'm sure you don't come to my blog for me to repeat a history lesson, in fact I'm not sure and shocked why anyone even reads FP but I hope that it's something to do with the fact that I try hard to project my individuality into this bog. So I think I should close this discussion. You can always feel free to email me if you ever have a question on the topic. Enjoy the appropriate video below! See ya soon!
Carrying on with our skirt discussion; I have realized why it's been such a long drawn out process for me to get to the damn point. I appreciate Sean's thoughts on the topic and I think Syed will have a much better series of posts then I could ever have, on the social implications of a man in a skirt. Attempting to simplify this, it's something like this whole breathing thing, it simply isn't a big deal for me. I know this seems like an easy way out, but at this point in my experience (maybe because I've been wearing skirts for a year now) the feelings are no longer raw or even there... Maybe? Yeah, why not?
There is so much out there already on the history of men in skirts why would I just repeat here. I'm sure you don't come to my blog for me to repeat a history lesson, in fact I'm not sure and shocked why anyone even reads FP but I hope that it's something to do with the fact that I try hard to project my individuality into this bog. So I think I should close this discussion. You can always feel free to email me if you ever have a question on the topic. Enjoy the appropriate video below! See ya soon!
A word from the wise, be careful of a windy day and subway grates...
10 comments:
We read your blog because we're interested in what you have to say! And definitely the best advice, although I have had to snap back on a couple of occasions simply to put people in their place.
Just wearing skinny jeans around my area was enough for someone to stop their car, roll down the window and shout 'Batty man' at me from across the road before speeding off. And another time some people took issue with me wearing a suit as opposed to a tracksuit or whatever when I was coming home late at night and decided to chase me across the park with a dog. Thankfully I'm a quick runner though! And you are far too kind, I wish I could write as comfortably as you seem to :)
Great post! Really beautifully put.
Generally found NY a lot more relaxed in that regard - Londoners are never shy of voicing their opinions!
I think I walk round with my head in the clouds a lot of the time, which provides its' own shelter, so the occasional shouted jolt back to reality is actually kind of interesting - the measure of the gap between my "normal" and everybody else's. And equally, what's acceptably "abnormal", and what isn't.
I took my breath away when I saw Comme des Garcons Homme Plus for 2011 ,many men's model are wearing skirt in fashion show. So beautiful ,completely natural.Nothing weird .I like man wear skirt as a man.I think you want to wear skirt like this. And you are. You know many people love you in skirt.
But there are many conservative people who don't like man in skirt.They are just conservative. You shouldn't care.
And I hope they are not mean to you.(Oh, I become mom's mode)
My motto in these situations is WWJD: What Would the Japanese Do? Masculinity is just coded so differently in Asia that it helps to remember that anything I think is kind of too avant-garde is already being done by some guy in Shibuya and if I don't just go with my gut, I'll see someone else doing it on the other side of the world!
P.S. Thanks for the shout out :)
Syed - Thank you for your lovely comment! I'm not surprised about the way people react to clothing in London. When I lived there I never felt safe to be 100% me and therefore never at home :( (although there was much more to moving then just that little thing). Glad you got away because you do write very comfortably and I love when I have some time and a little access to your blog to fully read it!
John-Michael - You and me both, orbiting our own planets, out and about. Story of my life but that's because our inner universe is so big and our immediate place seems so shallow.
Mari - Thank you Mari <3 you are so kind!
Sean - Thanks Sean! In terms of someone else doing what you and I are doing, just on the other side of the world, I don't think that's possible. Aside from not having exactly the same clothing. We live in a different scenario but more importantly have a different thought process. What is considered different over in Japan V what is different over here are two opposite things. If you look around at different countries and what their avant garde is you see people exploring similar themes but in very different ways. Apologies for the rambling I just woke up and am waiting for my caffeine to kick in....
umm, fabulous much?!
xo
Bang & Buck
OK so I'll give you a hand full of props today.
1) Any man who wears skirts and talks about it freely gets a point in my book.
2)You connected me to "Dapper kid's" blog which I have never seen.
3)You also connected me to "Fruitpunch" which I also have not read.
4)Is for your courage to be yourself and not get forced or bullied into a box and loose all your indivisibility. It might not seem like courage to you but believe me on this it is.
>Just that, is enough for me right there.
Brandonnnnnn, hope you're having a lovely Christmas weekend :)
Bang & Buck - Thank you!
IAMGAYLORD - Wow what a lovely comment! Very touched you came here and said those sweet things. When I have more time to focus on FP I promise to explore more of these ideas I've been having. Thanks for following along and speaking up <3!
Syed - Thank you Syed it was lovely! Happy Christmas and 2012 will be fucking glorious for us all I promise, just don't let it tell you otherwise!
very inspiring. in my eyes - if that's you in the photograph above - you look handsome and masculine in the photo above (whatever masculine means). it's reassuring to see a style blog tackling the subject's rich sociology. i'm about to put up a similar post, about crop tops and growing up as a gay athlete. please check it out - i think you may find it interesting
Peter @ http://low--couture.blogspot.com
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